Pre Step 1. Give up on that shit AIO thing. Don't waste your time. It'll be ok, everything is easy, you can figure out using the 3 tools it actually is using under the hood so you know what's going on and can update things.
Step 1. Download and install Java 64
Step 2. Download and extract the wallet you want to use
Right now I'm running 1.2.9c and it's been stable. All the same though, this may be out of date, any version of the java wallet is the same to setup.
Step 3. Prep your install.
Go into the folder you just extracted. There is a conf folder insde. In it is a nxt-default.properties file, copy and paste it into the same folder so you have create a copy of it. Rename that copy to nxt.properties. open it in a text editor.
Find the section. nxt.wellKnownPeers= and delete it and all the ips following. Go to http://status.burstcontrol.com:7777/node and at the bottom of the page will be a updated list you can copy, paste that into your nxt.properties file, save and close it.
Go back up a directory so your in the main folder that your extracted from the zip. Right click on run.bat and select edit.
Delete all that bullshit, the whole run.bat file, clean it out, replace with:
start "BURST" java -d64 -cp burst.jar;lib\*;conf nxt.Nxt
Save and close it.
Step 4. Get up to sync.
This will take hours and tie your CPU up while it works. Start it when your leaving the house for a while or going to bed for the night.
Double click the run.bat file you edited.
Walk away. It'll do it's thing. It'll take a while. When you come back look on the screen and it will tell you to go to:
when you do you'll have a wallet server, you can log in, and it'll show your sync progress if it's not done.
Done, drink victory beer.
NOTE: DO NOT COPY IN YOUR OLD DATABASE OR DOWNLOAD ONE TO "SAVE TIME". If you do you can try it and it might work. But if you have any issues. Assume that is the problem.